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World Mental Health Day❤️

Mental health is a thing.

It’s as important as anything physical, just it’s not as obvious.

If you are someone who judges people because of their appearance, despite the fact you know that they could be going through rough times, then please click off now and don’t further spread hate to people who don’t deserve it. Or maybe read on, and learn something new.

Everyone has their own thing. Some peoples thing might be a bit bigger than others. They can be a little quieter and nicer, or a lot more intimidating and empowering. I don’t know how big or small your thing is, but I do know you have it.

You might be sat there thinking ‘oh, she doesn’t know what she’s talking about’ but to be honest, everyone’s afraid of something aren’t they? The fear of failure, heights, crowds and small spaces, leaving the place you feel most safe, they’re all a thing you can have. Think about it. All these things can stop you from doing things you might actually end up loving. If you have a fear of heights, it’s almost like there is a slot in your mind ready to switch on whenever there happens to be something to do with heights. You’d never be able to tell yourself instantly to try skydiving and actually do it straight away. It’s like that little slot just switches on again and it’s warning you not to do it otherwise it won’t end well. I am quite sure that could be classed as a thing. It controls you. It tells you what to do at what time. It tells you things to make you not do something. See what I mean?

The fear of failure would most likely lead you to stressing a lot about getting things perfect and could make you panic when you don’t. It can basically make you into something your not. It can take over. It can make you worry. It can possibly give you OCD. That’s a thing, isn’t it?

See how the smallest of things can actually be a really big thing. It’s different when you go around saying things like you have really baddd claustrophobia just for the attention and then you force yourself into incredibly tight spaces on the daily. It seems like someone will over- exaggerate how ‘badly claustrophobic’ they are and the next 15 people in line join in (they all apparently have the exact same phobia😑). That’s just something I wanted to point out that really gets on my nerves sorry😂 Every single person I have met have told me (when we were in like a group) that they have claustrophobia like wtf. For some people the signs are obvious. Don’t be fooled by looks though. The happiest of people may have to dry the most tears.

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I think this might have been talked about a lot during mental health week. This is more of a really short review if I’m telling the truth.

Th13teen. Reasons. Why.

I don’t want to get into this so much because it is a pretty sensitive topic for a lot of people to talk about.

This actually isn’t about the series just more about suicide. I love to read about this topic a lot and I was really excited when I heard 13 reasons existed. It gives you that knowledge that there are more and more beautiful people everyday who are there to support you if you need a bit of help, and for someone to talk to when it just seems like there is no one to let out everything. It gives a whole new light to life and the way you treat others. I used to think that everyone was the same – but over the years, I realised that it’s actually everyone looks the same. They may not act the same, sound the same or even do the same things. But certainly not everyone feels the same way.

They tell us all the time in school that you will get used to the new year and everybody feels the same fear of being in a new school and we are all the same even though we look happier or sadder than others and blah blah. I don’t believe that.

Sure, coming to a new school is overwhelming and all. But maybe that pressure is a bit stronger than others. Maybe people were raised in madly strict homes where everyone is successful and you are dangerously pressured to keep up with it. Maybe people feel that nobody cares about them and that’s the reason they have no friends. People see life in so many different ways.

Someone can look at life like, ‘oh yeah, I don’t have any friends yet but making friends is dead easy.’ Other people might see it as ‘well I am not really bothered if I have friends or not actually.’ And there might be that one person who thinks of it as ‘mm, I have no friends again. No one really cares about me. Whats the use?’

Hannah Baker felt like that. Nobody cared about here enough to stop her. To see the signs. No one ever asked if she was ok. If she needed someone to talk to. They all just walked by like nothing was wrong. “A lot of you cared, just not enough.” 

You don’t know what goes on in anyone’s life but yours. When you mess with one part of someone’s life, you’re not messing with just that part. Unfortunately, you can’t be that precise and selective. When you mess with one part of someone’s life, you’re messing with their entire life. Everything affects everything. 

It makes me cry every time. Watch 13 reasons why and you’ll see how something so little you can say to someone can ruin someone. Be kind. Be open. Be a friend.

Suicide is real. It’s not a game. It’s not a way of gaining attention you’ll never need. It’s not not important and it’s not a joke. It’s real. Don’t ever take it for granted and don’t ever judge someone because they are suicidal. Talk to someone.

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If you ever feel the need to talk to someone, you can always speak to National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (U.S) here Samaritans in the U.K. and ROI here (if you’d prefer to write things down you can email here) and finally, for children and young people in the U.K. there is always childline and it won’t show up on your phone bill. Bullying U.K. is a website for both adults and children suffering from bullying. And finally, Students Against Depression is a website for students suffering from depression, have a low mood or are having suicidal thoughts. And as always, my DMs on Instagram and Twitter are always open to all of you who want to have a private chat x

I hope this post placed a little ray of sun and hope to your day. If you are reading this, you’re special. No matter who you are, what gender, race, ability or religion you are, whether or not you suffer from depression, anorexia…I love you so much. You’re making the world better each day.

Have a lovely day, beautiful😘

MyGirlBlogger, forever online for you xxx